Posted by: Lea | July 3, 2009

Respecting Yourself

Self Respect

 

The most powerful form of self respect is when you honor yourself through your words and act from a level of integrity and honesty that reflects your higher self. This means you display behavior and attitudes that reflects the values that you say you believe in. When you respect yourself, you stand by your deepest truth, know your inner most feelings and make yourself the authority of your feelings, instead of giving this authority to other people.

Believe in yourself and know that you did the best you knew how at the time, even if later you saw a better way. Allow yourself to feel good about who you are. Rest, think, take time to be alone and to be silent. Follow your own inner flow. This is how you nurture yourself and increase your self esteem.

Respect Yourself

 

You don’t have to be around people who don’t respect you or treat you well and if you find yourself around people like this, remember that they are not respecting you because they do not respect themselves. Not everyone you encounter is going to treat you with respect. Relationships you have with other people can only be as good as the relationship they have with themselves and vise versa. There’s no need to get angry or demand your rights. That will only create a power struggle. Accept that they can’t recognize their own greater selves, so they’re unable to recognize your greater self.

Self Worth

 

It’s easy to feel self worth when other people are being respectful to you. The real challenge is to respect yourself and appreciate your value when those around you do not. Acknowledging that you have self worth, allows you to let go of any need for other people to validate you. If you need people outside of yourself to validate you in order to feel good about yourself, then you’re giving away your power. It may feel good when others believe in, trust and support you; but if you want to keep your power, realize that you don’t need anyone but yourself to validate who you truly are.

Being sensitive to other people’s feelings is not the same as trying to please them. Be more aware of the effect you have on other people. The more you respect them, the more respect you will get back. Respect their worth, their time and values and you will find they will respect yours.

Respect  and value your truth

Your truth may be different from that of other people.  Don’t automatically accept someone else’s truth unless it resonates as truth for you also. You’re a special being whose dreams, fantasies and goals are just as important as anyone else’s.

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Responses

  1. Self respect, that is something that I have come a long way on. I’m pretty sure that my lack of self respect started many years ago in high school. I was not a very “nice” girl. I took that all through my adulthood. The first major relationship that I was in broke what little self respect I had left. The physical, mental, and emotional abuse I lived through was a result of my lack of self respect. After I left that relationship for good I started slowly rebuilding the self respect that was so lacking. It took many years and I probably am still not there fully, but I continue to work on that. Some day I will get there, this I know.

  2. Self respect, that is something that I have come a long way on. I’m pretty sure that my lack of self respect started many years ago in high school. I was not a very “nice” girl. I took that all through my adulthood. The first major relationship that I was in broke what little self respect I had left. The physical, mental, and emotional abuse I lived through was a result of my lack of self respect. After I left that relationship for good I started slowly rebuilding the self respect that was so lacking. It took many years and I probably am still not there fully, but I continue to work on that. Some day I will get there, this I know.

  3. Much of what you’re saying here mirrors what I say continually to people to help them heal their Dark Spaces. Self Respect honors the Self and goes a long way to learning to Love the Self. This is why I often say, “If you don’t Love Your Self, who will?”. No one will Love you any more than how you Love your Self and Self Respect is integral in this process.

    Good Stuff!

  4. Much of what you’re saying here mirrors what I say continually to people to help them heal their Dark Spaces. Self Respect honors the Self and goes a long way to learning to Love the Self. This is why I often say, “If you don’t Love Your Self, who will?”. No one will Love you any more than how you Love your Self and Self Respect is integral in this process.

    Good Stuff!

  5. Hi Lea, so few people are actually in touch with their true self. To grow as a person we need to be true to our core person and our deepest values. We can’t create inner harmony unless we truly know who we are and what we stand for.

    • very true…everyone speaks but very actually knows themselves.

  6. Hi Lea, so few people are actually in touch with their true self. To grow as a person we need to be true to our core person and our deepest values. We can’t create inner harmony unless we truly know who we are and what we stand for.

  7. Beautiful thoughts. I’ve been thinking a lot about that “know that you did the best you knew how at the time”–particularly with respect with times in my life I have a lot of regrets about, when I wish I’d behaved differently. But, while, certainly, it’s useful to me now to be able to look back and evaluate and use those experiences to guide me in taking healthier paths now, if I really think about all the details of my life then, I realize that I wasn’t capable of behaving in the way I wish I had (for instance, I think about things I would have liked to have said to people when I was twelve–but, of course, the things I wish I’d said are the thoughts of a well educated 43 year old man, not a frightened, confused, and badly wounded adolescent…).

  8. Beautiful thoughts. I’ve been thinking a lot about that “know that you did the best you knew how at the time”–particularly with respect with times in my life I have a lot of regrets about, when I wish I’d behaved differently. But, while, certainly, it’s useful to me now to be able to look back and evaluate and use those experiences to guide me in taking healthier paths now, if I really think about all the details of my life then, I realize that I wasn’t capable of behaving in the way I wish I had (for instance, I think about things I would have liked to have said to people when I was twelve–but, of course, the things I wish I’d said are the thoughts of a well educated 43 year old man, not a frightened, confused, and badly wounded adolescent…).

  9. You would not believe (perhaps you could) just how opportune this post is for my current problems.

    xhenry

  10. You would not believe (perhaps you could) just how opportune this post is for my current problems.

    xhenry

  11. Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this today! I have been having problems with the friend that I share a house with. She is not very nice about allot of things and complains about everything. It is really hard to live here and I am trying to find a new place to live, that is just not easy on my budget. I know I will be moving soon but in the meantime I have to live here plus we work at the same place so it is difficult. I am not used to being around negativity so it has been a real adjustment for me. We were just friends and she offered me a room to rent at the time I had misgivings but I moved in anyway. It was a huge mistake. After reading this I felt allot better because I really have tried to treat her with respect and have helped as much as I can to no avail. Now I know why this has been so hard. I am proud of myself, I have and still do respect, honor, love and care about myself so I have done well.

    I have something for you at my site so come and see.

    Love and Blessings,
    AngelBaby

  12. Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this today! I have been having problems with the friend that I share a house with. She is not very nice about allot of things and complains about everything. It is really hard to live here and I am trying to find a new place to live, that is just not easy on my budget. I know I will be moving soon but in the meantime I have to live here plus we work at the same place so it is difficult. I am not used to being around negativity so it has been a real adjustment for me. We were just friends and she offered me a room to rent at the time I had misgivings but I moved in anyway. It was a huge mistake. After reading this I felt allot better because I really have tried to treat her with respect and have helped as much as I can to no avail. Now I know why this has been so hard. I am proud of myself, I have and still do respect, honor, love and care about myself so I have done well.

    I have something for you at my site so come and see.

    Love and Blessings,
    AngelBaby


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