Posted by: Lea | September 21, 2008

Unconditional Love

It may sound strange whenever you hear the phrase, “Love starts with you” or “You cannot truly love another until you truly love yourself.” I’m not talking about being self centered and egotistical here. Loving yourself  isn’t to be confused with being “in” love with yourself. What I’m talking about is loving yourself for who you are at this moment and the person you are continuously evolving into. Unconditional love is a deeper love than what is usually experienced in our lives. It goes deep into our being. Living our lives from the center of our being allows us to accept ourselves as well as other people without limitations or expectations. Some thing like an “overflow effect.”

Unconditional love with Self-acceptance is the way to arrive at a place of well-being and self understanding.

For many people this is not easy to understand. Perhaps because people have used the word “love” to demand more love from another than what is possible for that person to give.

Unconditional love is an unlimited way of being. A life that is lived through the practice of unconditional love is a magnificent experience that inspires the very essence of our being and is the light on our path.

Unconditional love represents our true Spiritual goal. To love everyone, including ourselves, without discrimination, limitation or expectations. Only through unconditional love are we able to recognize that we are part of that great oneness that is Spirit.



  1. Great post. I totally agree the word love is often misused. In my opinion love means the total acceptance of everything.

    Unconditional loves last blog post..Do What’s Right – Do What’s Hard

  2. Hi Unconditional love

    Thank you for stopping by. Yes, if we all were to learn acceptance, what a great world this would be.

  3. Thank you for this post. At this point in my life I am trying to love myself before I can move onto anything else. It’s hard to do that when I’ve been criticized by others. But I’ll get there though. 🙂


  4. Hi Diana

    Yes, we have a tendency to judge ourselves through other people and their judgments of us. Perhaps reading my post “Ego” could be of some help. In there I discuss how ego likes to label people, which generates name calling and judgments.

    It might also help to remember that though some people might feel they know you, no one truly knows you except you. Build on what you know to be true about yourself, not what others think they know.

  5. Hello Lea,

    Yes I totally agree and it seems that people -the majority not all- forgot how to love themselves and others and therefore we are living what we see today!

    p.s. I saw your comment over ‘Nature Not Senile’ within the ‘Alphabet’ post so you may found me dopping hi there too.

  6. Hi Hicham

    I’m glad to see you. Yes, its hard to give out love if you feel the opposite of love for yourself. Loathing and hate breeds more loathing and hate. Breeding love is so much better.

  7. Wonderful post as always Lea, you write with real
    conviction and true passion.

    carol kings last blog post..How To Attract The Common Cold

  8. I’m glad to hear that carol and thank you for the feedback.

  9. Being a parent, it’s easier for me to experience unconditional love.

    First, actually, little children love their parents unconditionally. There’s nothing you can do to make them stop loving you. They trust you with their whole being. It is an amazing responsibility.

    Second, in turn it awakens in us the ability to love unconditionally. Our children are reflections of who we are in many ways. As we learn to give abundantly to our children, so do we to ourselves.

    Well, ideally speaking, that is. Many of us have scars and hurts and things don’t go down quite so well, even when presented with an awesome opportunity like raising a child.

    But that’s where I find unconditional love in this world.


    Ari Koinumas last blog post..How to Climb Up the Ladder of Healing and Growth (Digest)

  10. This was a message I was meant to receive today. Many of my favorite bloggers are writing about love. You touched on something they left out. The word “love” is over demanded. I truly believe that a person has limits and those limits must be respected.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Tammy Warrens last blog post..Was that a compliment? Think about it.

  11. Hello Ari

    Children are great. They’re good examples of what the true spirit of love is and should be. I’m so glad you came by and thank you for sharing. I hope to see you again soon. Have a great day! Many blessings

  12. Hello Tammy

    I’m glad you liked the article. Unconditional love changes to love with conditions when we bring in expectations and focus on our own needs. I remember reading once that in love relationships, there will be one partner who will be deeper in love than the other person involved. So two people loving each other with equal intensity might be a myth. Thank you for stopping by and for sharing. Have a great day! Many blessings


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