Your primary relationship is and always will be with yourself, whether you are in a relationship with someone else or not. No relationship can be successful unless you approach it from a soul perspective of self-responsibility, self love and self growth. Before you can hope to achieve a fulfilling relationship with another, you will need to be completely honest with yourself and accept responsibility for your own emotions, moods and attitudes. You will have to respect and be kind to yourself. Avoid self judgments that undermine you. You will also need to grant yourself the freedom to change, grow and shine.
Being single offers opportunities for self discovery and growth. It is often a necessary prelude to any kind of successful relationship. When you’re not involved in a romantic relationship, you are being given the opportunity to digest and to gain an understanding deep into your soul of all that you have learned from your previous partnerships.
If perhaps you feel that you have been overshadowed by your partners in the past, your time on our own offers you the opportunity to grow into your full personal power. Or perhaps you have been too controlling in your past relationships, you will be given time to reflect the price you have paid for this behavior. You will be encouraged to consider letting down some of your self defense barriers and opening your heart to a more trusting and flowing connection with a partner.
If you are desiring a partner, yet seem unable to attract one, remember that you are at your most attractive when you are in charge of your own emotions, when you radiate the inner peace that comes from self love and when you make others feel respected and free to express who they truly are. All relationship issues come back to the fact that no one can live your life for you. No one can feel your fear, experience your dark night of the soul, nor emerge with triumph, wisdom and humility into your true, divine self for you. No one can learn your lessons for you or love you on your behalf.
Others can love you and fill you with a wonderful sense of warmth and appreciation, but only you can give yourself the support that you require to keep yourself balanced and whole within yourself. This is how you will achieve the highest levels of happiness, which are peace, joy and love. Then you will be able to multiply these by sharing them with another soul on your mutual journeys of soul expansion.
The feelings of connection that you seek through your relationship with another, first starts through your connection with your own heart.